Lena Dunham realizes she isn't ready for marriage
Actress Lena Dunham has come to the conclusion she and her boyfriend, fun. rocker Jack Antonoff, aren't ready for marriage after previously declaring they would only wed once same-sex unions are legalized across the U.S.
The Girls creator and star jokingly tweeted her partner of three years to "get on it" last month (Jun15) after U.S. Supreme Court officials made the groundbreaking decision to legalize gay marriage across the country.
However, Dunham has now penned a reflective essay for The New
Yorker magazine, in which she reveals Antonoff was less than
enthused by the idea.
The actress writes, "Jack didn't text back, which is entirely
unlike him, and it wasn't until I got home and looked him in the
eye that I realized just how little the concept of marriage had
been on his mind. Partly that's because we were busy, and the
ruling caught him by surprise, and his politics were pure and not
as self-interested as mine were starting to feel. But partly, I
suppose, it's because, as a man, his entire life has not been
shaped by a desire for, or a rejection of, a fluffy white
dress."
Dunham goes on to confess his laid-back reaction prompted her to
think deeply about what marriage actually meant to her and made her
wonder if she really was ready to head to the altar.
She continues, "My desire for a wedding predated my ability to
imagine any other kind of positive attention for myself, any other
moment of triumph in my life. I didn't want to have a gallery
opening, like my mom, or to perform surgery, like my aunt. A
wedding would do the trick."
But she concludes, "The fact is that wanting everyone to have the
right to marry and wanting to be married are two very different
things. Wanting eternal love and wanting a sit-down dinner with all
of your family and frenemies (enemies disguised as friends) are
different things, too. I have the professional luxury of wearing at
least three fluffy dresses a year. One of them could be white if I
wanted it to be. So, what gives?
"But it turns out that what I was waiting for was not the chance to
marry but the chance to think about marriage on an even playing
field, in a world where its relevance is a little harder to
question and its essence a little harder to reject."