Zoe Saldana abandons 'archaic' sleep training method
New mom Zoe Saldana has abandoned her sister's "archaic" sleep training advice to let her twin babies cry it out until they grow tired, because the actress and her husband can't bear to hear their sons bawl their eyes out.
The Avatar beauty and her husband, Italian artist Marco Perego, welcomed Bowie and Cy in November (14) and although the couple is enjoying life as parents, Saldana admits training the boys to sleep through the night is proving a lot harder than initially anticipated.
She and Perego have been taking tips from Saldana's sister, Mariel,
who became a mother just months before the actress, and her tried
and tested method involved leaving the baby to cry for extended
periods of time in a bid to wear the kid out.
Mariel and her partner warned Saldana and Perego that hearing their
children cry and not tending to them immediately would be hard
emotionally, so they suggested having some alcohol handy to help
calm the anxious parents' nerves.
Saldana explains, "It's overwhelming because there are so many
different methods. Just the other day, my sister, who has a nine
month old, shared with us the method that she did. She brought the
piece of paper and grabbed us both with a bottle of vodka... That's
how her and her husband did it. Because the moment you hear your
child cry, it's like, it rips the guts out of you. And... we have
two. It's crazy.
"So there's a bottle of Skinnygirl (vodka brand) and we had the
(baby) monitor with the volume all the way high. We have this
little note thing, this log (guide) that you have to be logging in
(following) all the time. We put them down, say, 'Mummy and daddy
love you' in Italian and Spanish... and then we walk out and
they're having a meltdown.
"So then you have to time it, then you go in... We go in and I'm
like, 'What do we do?' No eye contact, just say, 'Mummy and daddy
love you...' and she (her sister) would come pull us out. So by the
third time, it had been 45 minutes already. We were kind of buzzed.
It's heart-wrenching. My husband doesn't drink and he's like,
'Gimme that bottle!'"
The method proved to be too much for Saldana and Perego to handle
and they decided to work it out on their own - but only after
openly questioning Mariel's parenting skills while in the heat of
the moment.
Saldana continues, "So then we go (into the boys' bedroom) and we
just finally abort. We abort mission. We take our kids. I take one,
he takes the other, and we're both crying. The boys' bodies are...
weeping... and you go, 'Oh, my God, he's never going to forgive me
for this.' And then, Marco and I are talking in the room going,
'It's not for us. It's too archaic. There has to be a more gentle
method. They did it because they're insensitive. They don't care
about their children.' My sister's outside with the monitor at full
volume...! They were just like, 'We get it.'"